last installment of The Catholic Nook on joining a third order, I received some feedback on Twitter that there was interest in me writing about how I incorporate the charisms of the Dominican order into my daily life and routine as a wife and mother. I thought that was a great idea, and so let's have at it. :)
I've always been fascinated by daily prayer rituals, whether one follows the focus of a particular religious order or not. Do you pray the rosary as you fold laundry? Listen to the daily Mass readings on a podcast as you clean the house? Pray in the car? If you do, I want to know about it. :) Prayer is a very personal thing, obviously, and we all bring our own touch to it. Prayer is also something that is easy to neglect, but it's very much a relationship with God. When you neglect that relationship, it will wither and die. When you tend to it, it will start to flourish slowly but surely.
We know that priests and other religious have a regimented schedule of prayer that they follow via the Liturgy of the Hours and other routines established by their communities (where applicable). But as laypeople, we are also called to prayer as it is conducive to our vocation, whether it be to the married or single life. I am a wife and mother, but I also work full time outside of the home. All of these are considerations in what I am able to do in daily prayer. Combining this with my affiliation as a third order Dominican, how do I structure my daily prayer routine? Well, with 5 major items:
(1) The Rosary - Dominicans are devoted to the rosary, and in fact St. Dominic is often credited with the vision that started the rosary beads we are familiar with today. I am a very tactile Christian, and I adore traditional Catholic devotions like this one that have a physical reminder of what we are doing as we pray and involve us moving our body in some way to continue the prayer. It takes about 15-20 minutes to pray a complete decade of the rosary, and I love to do this in the car. That probably seems odd, but in the car on the way to work I am (1) uninterrupted by small cute children, and (2) fairly focused, rather than having my mind all willy nilly like it is at home, trying to accomplish at dozen things at one time. This means that I often do not pray a rosary on the weekends, but I do my best. Yes, I do use my beads while I drive, but I promise that I'm careful. :)
(2) Liturgy of the Hours - Even the third order in the Dominicans are called to pray the Liturgy of the Hours, just like the priests and religious sisters. I own the complete 4-volume set of the Liturgy of the Hours, but I'm going to be honest and admit that for the time being I admire their lovely faux leather form on my bookshelf but rarely use them. Sometimes during a major liturgical season like Advent or Lent I'll use them, but I have come to accept that between family and work I cannot consistently (and with the proper focus) carve out enough time to pray fully even just Lauds and Vespers. So, I have come up with a substitution, and I'm certain that God is ok with this. :) I use my Magnificat magazine, which includes a morning and evening prayer consisting of psalms, a reading, a hymn, intercessory prayer, and a meditation. This is private prayer, rather than the official prayer of the Church like the Liturgy of the Hours, but the setup is lovely and works to the same end. Overall it is much shorter than the Liturgy of the Hours, and so I pray it every day and that is what matters. I really do recommend some sort of structured morning and evening prayer. The morning prayers are oriented to starting your day and lifting your eyes up to God, while evening prayer helps you wind down and reflect on the day's events. For any vocation, this is an important thing.
(3) Devotion to Mary- Dominicans are very devoted to Mary, as St. Dominic himself was. This has always been a no-brainer for me. I have always felt close to Mary and I credit her with my adult reversion back to my faith. Now, as a mother, I relate to her all the more. At the beginning of the year I did a 33 day preparation and subsequent consecration to Jesus through Mary and I can't tell you how much impact I have felt from that devotion. I plan to renew that consecration yearly, and with the book I used, 33 Days to Morning Glory: A Do-it-Yourself Retreat in Preparation for Marian Consecration by Fr. Michael Gaitley, it took not more than 10 minutes per day to read the entries and prayers. I highly recommend it.
(4) Mass - As third order Dominicans we are supposed to try to attend daily Mass. I do so love the use of the word "try," don't you? :) I *adore* daily Mass, but so often I am not able to make it. Most weeks I can go 1-2 times in addition to Sundays. Some weeks I cannot go at all during the week, but I'm trying to make that the exception rather than the rule. Even one additional Mass between Monday and Friday is a tremendous boost to the spiritual life and can be accomplished with work and kids.
(5) Spiritual reading - Dominicans are scholarly types (read: nerds. I fit right in) and we are encouraged to practice lectio divina or other spiritual reading to edify our relationship with God. Reading has always been easy for me because I love to do it. Now I will grant, with small kids getting reading time isn't what it used to be. I used to devour books. Now, it takes me weeks to read through anything more substantive than a Harlequin romance. I always read in bed prior to falling asleep, and in the morning over cereal and coffee. Aside from that, well...reading time, how I miss thee. But even those two opportunities are enough for me to get in some spiritual memoirs. I try to mix in some heavier reading at least twice a year, maybe a work by a Dominican saint, something like that. If you become a lay Carmelite your fodder is so wonderful that your cup will runneth over.
And so, there you have it. A day in the prayer life of the Catholic Librarian. :) I recently discovered a related little apostolate that is right up my alley called MonkRock. "You don't have to be a monk to live like one!" is their tag line, and I discovered them first on Twitter (@MonkRock). They Tweet inspirational sayings and ideas, and maintain a blog on monastic topics. I mean, did you ever?! A BLOG ON MONASTIC TOPICS.
Ok, my world can begin rotating again. I just love that so much.
I have always been drawn to the religious life, although I ultimately found that wasn't my vocation. And despite being a layperson, I still feel called to do what I can to live *a* religious life in my vocation as a wife and mother. Mike always looks jokingly worried when I start talking about nuns because I get so passionate about the topic. Like I may seek out an annulment and head off to the convent. :) I'm still slogging away on The Ear of the Heart, and I'm finally at the part where Mother Hart enters the postulancy in the cloistered Benedictine community that she chose and I'm SO INTO IT. Review coming up hopefully next week in Catholic Book Club.
Anybody else want to share their prayer routine? Comments are open. :)